And just like that, it was 2014.


So here we are: the first Monday of 2014! Are you excited? I kind of am. What will this year bring?

Even though the New Year officially started last Wednesday, I confess that I did not get cracking on my "fresh start" until today. My New Year's Day was deliciously spent sipping bubbly and carb-loading in bed, while watching my favorite New Year movie; 200 Cigarettes followed by my least favorite; New Year's Eve (okay, the Lea Michelle elevator singing scene gives me an intense case of the giggles. I know, it was supposed to showcase her talents but in a non-musical film it just seemed random while Ashton Kutcher awkwardly stared at her feigning his enchantment.) 

Last year, a wise soul advised me to write a letter to create my intentions for the new year: what did I want to achieve; what did I want to see; what did I want to do. Choosing last night, the eve before my official new year, I pulled out my 2013 letter and was astonished by how many of my wishes were granted.

One wish that I never thought would manifest was making peace with my family. I had come to a point of acceptance and had truly let go of the hope that they would apologize for accusing Aurelien and me of robbing them, which led to the cancellation of a planned New York wedding. But when you let go, you let God, right? Well last summer we received a verbal apology from them, a sincere acknowledgement to their hasty accusation. My jaw was pretty much on the floor. My Italian family is not the apologetic type, especially for something they feel strong about. 

When sharing this closed chapter to a sad and confusing story with close friends, they couldn't help but ask if we had accepted their apology. Of course we did. Everything happened exactly the way it was supposed to, and standing proud and defiant over being "right" is just a useless habit to fall into.

With that said, this 2014 I intend to reintroduce myself to meditation, limit my dairy and alcohol consumption (limit, not eliminate -- I do live in France after all), get more sleep, tap into my creative conscientiousness with a new hobby, and one the hardest thing for me to do: stay focused. 

Here is to a peaceful yet productive 2014.
What are your intentions for the year?

16 comments:

  1. I'm glad you patched things up with your family (and they apologised!)

    So far, I've got making sure to actually use all the skincare products I bought in the UK & buying a potato ricer. And trying to explore a little more of Metz. Happy New Year!

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    1. Hi Gwan!

      Me too! The apology was extremely heartfelt and unexpected. I admit, there were tears all around.

      Ooooh skin care products! You have such beautiful skin, you don't need much of a routine, but it's always good to use what you invested in. What brand are you using? I'm on the hunt for something new.

      Enjoy Metz, your potato ricer (I had to Google that) and the new year! We'll have to cheers for real the next time you're in Paris. xo.

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    2. A potato ricer?! I though my mom was the only one with one! When grandma died, she really wanted hers (never quite knew why though…).

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    3. I swear by No. 7, from Boots in the UK. I always stock up when I go, not sure if they can be bought online. If you ever get the chance to buy their microdermabrasion exfoliators (face & body), definitely do! I'm good at doing my face in the morning, but I get a bit lazy before bed, so trying to be good!

      I don't know why I'm obsessed with getting a potato ricer either?!? They seem pretty expensive for what they are, but dammit, next pay cheque I'm going to stop talking about potato ricers and finally buy one!

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  2. I like your attitude...whatever happens happens for a reason...so true I think

    as for 2014...worry less, eat better, travel more...and when my head says "don't"..mostly "do"....you only live once.

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    1. Thanks Deb!

      I certainly could have done without the random drama last year but I am more self-aware and stronger because of it. There isn't too much that will puncture me emotionally after a blow like that. But with that said, I'm glad it's finally over. Things will never be like they were before, but maybe I needed those boundaries this entire time and never knew it.

      Great goals! Worry less is big one. And I hope by traveling more, you mean to Paris! : )

      Happy new year!

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  3. I'm so happy to hear they apologized and you are moving forward. You have inspired me. I have a similar dynamic but without any apologies. I wished them a Merry Christmas and now hope for the best. Happy New Year!

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    1. Hi Mags,

      Thank you so much for your comment! And welcome. : )

      We were happy that they apologized too, taken aback and completely surprised, but overall happy and extremely grateful that we could all turn the page without this looming negative energy.

      I'm sorry to hear that you have a similar dynamic. Having gone through it, I know how frustrating it can be. Just stand firm in your belief, keep staying positive (I did the same thing as you, I wished them a Merry Xmas last year too) and you may just be surprised. Life is funny that way. Best of luck to you and happy new year.

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  4. Happy new year! Good luck with your goals :o)

    I would love to move into a more creative career, but I think I need to spend this year focussing on creating more opportunities for myself to make this a reality (however tempting the job for a project manager of a quilting project might have been, I can't take a 2/3 pay cut right now!)

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    1. Happy, happy new year to you too! Thank you. So far so good. Weening off the wine was so much more difficult last year than it has been this year. Last year I went into a mini depression because I had nothing to look forward to at the end of the day. This year, I am actually ready for it and am not craving it. I guess the second time around is easier.

      That's the tricky thing about pursuing goals, especially creative ones; they're not always lucrative. As a fledgling freelance writer where gigs are spread out and aren't well-paid, I can definitely relate. It's all about pursuing your hobbies and passions during your downtime with everything you've got in the hopes of making it more than a hobby, but a job. Good luck! 2014 should be interesting, eh?

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  5. It's good to hear that you and your family worked things out!

    I'd like to get back to eating more healthily. I've slipped recently (even more so over the holidays), and I'd liked to get back to how I was eating last year and over the summer. I'd also like to get back to exercising more regularly. I had a lot of fun doing Zumba during the summer but it got pushed aside. I feel like it'll help deal with the stress and frustration of my program.

    -Shannon

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    1. Yeah, I didn't think it would ever happen and am so grateful that it did. The whole thing really was unnecessary. So, we're both glad it's finally over with.

      Physical exercise is fantastic for stress (I'm sure you know that) and Zumba is so much fun! All of that booty-romping and jumping around will release crazy endorphins. Easing back into a new routine is never easy, just take it day by day and you'll be back to "Summer Shannon" in no time. Courage!

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  6. Why does it not surprise me that 200 Cigarettes is your favorite New Years movie?! It's mine too! And I didn't get to watch it this year so now I know what will be keeping me entertained as I get through the massive pile of ironing left from the holidays :)

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    1. 80s, old-school New York, eye shadow, shoulder purses, holidays, Elvis Costello, Martha Plimpton, Paul Rudd, Jay Mohr AND Courtney Love. That movie is pretty much what I envision my heaven to look like. Of course I love that movie! Yes, please watch it. Just try and tune out Christina Ricci's TERRIBLE Long Island accent. The real thing doesn't sound anything like that. Happy ironing!

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  7. Happy 2014 dear friend! You reminded me that I need to do my list for 2014. I didn't do one for 2013 and regret it so much now! Wishing you both lots of happiness in the new year! x

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  8. Sounds like a plan!:) And such wise friends you have;)

    I'm sure you'll create an even better year for yourself in 2014:) Practice makes perfect!:)

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